Book Review: Love and War

If you’re married (or aren’t, but want to be) this book is a must-read.

I’ve read a lot of books on marriage. Sometimes I read them during rough times, seeking answers and guidance on making it through. Other books were read while things were good and I was in search of ways to keep it that way.

This is definitely the best book I have ever read on the subject.  Maybe it’s because I’ve always felt that creating a good marriage is some of the hardest work on Earth, and this book acknowledges that from the start. It’s so easy to let things slide through the years, to develop the habit of fighting against your spouse instead of fighting FOR him or her. The Eldredges explain how to overcome these destructive habits and start building a solid future together again.

And the process involves a lot of self-examination; no more wondering how to change my husband, but examining how I can and must change the way that I relate to him and people in general. It’s not a warm and cozy comforting read, but a hard-hitting challenge to work on yourself.

That makes it sound harshly written, but it’s not. There are laughs throughout the book, and love flows through it.

If you’ve found yourself wondering how to improve your own marriage, or what it takes to create a good one, click here and get your own copy. You won’t be disappointed.

From the publisher:

What the Eldredge bestsellers Wild at Heart did for men, and Captivating did for women, LOVE & WAR will do for married couples everywhere. John and Stasi Eldredge have contributed the quintessential works on Christian spirituality through the experience of men and the experience of women and now they turn their focus to the incredible dynamic between those two forces.

With refreshing openness that will grab readers from the first page, the Eldredges candidly discuss their own marriage and the insights they’ve gained from the challenges they faced. Each talks independently to the reader about what they’ve learned, giving their guidance personal immediacy and a balance between the male and female perspectives that has been absent from all previous books on this topic.   They begin LOVE & WAR with an obvious but necessary acknowledgement:  Marriage is fabulously hard.  They advise that the sooner we get the shame and confusion off our backs, the sooner we’ll find our way through.

LOVE & WAR shows couples how to fight for their love and happiness, calling men and women to step into the great adventure God has waiting for them together. Walking alongside John and Stasi Eldredge, every couple can discover how their individual journeys are growing into a story of meaning much greater than anything they could do or be on their own.

This was book was provided for review by WaterBrook Multnomah.